Friday, January 19, 2007

Can you find love in a bar?

I’ve been reading the exchange on the “Who Needs a Husband” post. The comment by “Kevin” still gnaws at me. No, not the part about me hating men, blah, blah. That’s typical.

I’m talking about his comment criticizing me for talking to women at Fox & Hound. For some reason, I often hear people say you can’t meet anyone of substance in a club or bar. It makes it sound as if every person that hangs out or occasionally visits bars is not marrying material. At the same time, people often say single folks should meet a church-going girl or guy, as if people who go to church don’t go to clubs.

What do you think? Can you meet a person of substance at a nightclub? Post your replies below.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think it can happen, actually I know it can. I met a guy in a bar once and we dated for almost four years. I think it depends on the individuals. Yes you will meet more playa's then men but everyone once in awhile you just meet someone you click with. I can say I sure havent' met anyone at the gym, work, grocery store or in the park.

Clay said...

Of course you can meet a person of substance at a nightclub.

Now: Are you more likely to meet someone who's just looking to hook up at Crush (just to name one club as an example) than you are at a restaurant, or at church? Probably. And are you more likely to meet someone who's looking to settle down in a more sedate environment, such as church or an organized event, than at a club? Probably. You also need to factor into this that while many people may go to a wild club on a Friday or Saturday night, the folks who go to such clubs on Mondays and Tuesdays are probably of a different mindset.

As with most things, there are no absolutes here.

Anonymous said...

Well, sure you can meet someone of substance at a bar! That's where I met my first 3 wives...and it was "substance" abuse!

Anonymous said...

I enjoy going to see live music and watch sports so I do like the bar scene for that. (I'll be wathing the playoff's tomorrow!) I would hope there are some decent guys also with the same interest... You do have your players but they are so obvious its pathetic. So I would love to meet a guy who enjoyed hanging out listening to music and watching sports... But does he exists?

Clay said...

Anon @ 5:25 PM: Yes, we exist. :-)

Anonymous said...

Yeah, you can find substance material folks in a bar, just don't drink too much. If you drink too much, then you only notice the folks with non substance qualities. :-)

Anonymous said...

I know several happy couples who met in bars. One couple met in a bar, then OWNED one! It can happen.

Anonymous said...

Yeah you can but only if you are able to weed out all the players.

Anonymous said...

I am a person of sunstance, and I rarely go to bars. I once oved a man who did go to bars, and he met a tramp at one, and instead of marrying me, he married her.

I don't think men WANT women of substance. I think they LOVE women with no depth. I believe this because I am 34 years old, good-hearted, intelligent, witty, and very culture concious. And men either don't want me or leave me for women in bars. So if you want a husband, be stupid, be ruthless, and hang out at Fox and Hound.

Anonymous said...

I know you can meet people of substance in a bar, but you do have to weed through the ones that are full of BS. I have had friends who met their husbands (and yes they are happily married)in a bar and I have actually made some really good friends through hanging out at bars. My friends and I used to say that we are good people hanging out and dancing, there have to be more people like us.