Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Hey black guy, don't try so hard


I don't have a problem with black men who date white women. Some of my closest male friends do. Heck, my brother lives with one. But I do have a problem with black guys who act stupid to get a white girl's attention. My friends and I call it the minstrel show.

A buddy of mine loves to describe the black guy surrounded by white girls and starts doing the snake and other '80s dances. Why? Why? Why?

On Saturday, I saw a whole new act in the minstrel show. It started in the courtyard outside One Hot Mamas. As I mentioned in a previous blog, I took a picture of a black guy wearing all-white contacts. He said he was from New York, and he liked to be different. Ugh. Then Mr. Contacts started doing the footwork dance that kids in middle school here did years ago. Grown men do not do footwork.

Unfortunately, that wasn't the last of his antics. We ran into Mr. Contacts again at Monkey Business, a dance club just outside of the Sea Pines plantation. At the club, he continued his footwork clinic and kept trying to freak on groups of women. Embarrassing.

I have countless examples of black guys behaving badly to get white girls. Do white guys do the same thing to get black women or women of other ethnicities? Post your replies below.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

why, why, why tonya must you choose a topic like this to discuss. as an african american man who does not have preference of women, we all are equal, i like all women, races and cultures. why would you bring uneeded attention to our race in a negative aspect. African american men act foolish to get white woman, come on. maybe it was " a guy who likes to be the center of attention to get a girl". question if he was doing the "minstrel show" (why do you and friends even waste time on what someone else is doing anyway) for a african american female would it be an issue, or if a caucasion guy was doing something to draw attention to himself for caucasion women would it catch your attention. anyway thats my two sense and to each... his or her own

Anonymous said...

I had to comment......I am an African american male who no prefrence either and very offended by this article. It lacks all professionalism.

If its to get thos racist folks from making this stupid remarks towards you then think again they are gonna hate you regardless.

But whatever you do don't step on the shoulder of a brother....

Kid Sirloin said...

You're a lesbian, right?? Why else would you bring this up unless you were deliberately looking to ruffle some feathers? Just. Go. Away.

We don't want you here.

hey, you asked said...

The reason black guys want white girls so badly and are willing to make fools of themselves doing it, is because white women are so much more desirable, educated, don't already have 3 babies with 3 different daddies,shave their legs, have their own car, gainfully employed, not on welfare, etc..

The only problem is white women don't normally want to have anything to do with black men. Mainly because the overwhelming majority (not ALL, mind you) of black men are lazy,didn't graduate from high school, have spent time in penal institutions, and have no real marketable skills, and possess no ambition other than to steal or sell drugs.

So, as a result, 95% of the time you see a white woman with a black guy, they are grossly overweight, uneducated, white trash or a drug addict and/or prostitute. In other words, these are castoffs, i.e women white guys don't want.

The other 5% are with pro athletes, because well they are millionaires.

Anonymous said...

Uh, I don't know what the other three posters are so upset about. You're just talking about stuff that happens in the clubs, and whether the first two like it or not, SOME black dudes DO act a fool to get the attention of white chicks. And you know what? SOME white dudes act a fool to get the attention of black chicks. I'm a black chick, and it's happened to me many times -- white guys who try to be "down." WhatEVER. In my opinion, usually people who act like that -- do stereotypical things to get the attention of others -- are really into the fantasy of having someone of another reace. Just keep on movin'.

Anonymous said...

White women more desirable and educated. What a joke. What's desirable about stringy hair, flat a---s and boob jobs. Now you may be just as desirable after all of the surgery's you have to emulate the features of african american women. No, I don't need collagen injections, botox, tanning booths, butt lifts or hair extensions. I will not look like a prune by the time I'm 35. I am educated, gainfully employed and beating off black and white men with a stick. I work with unwed mothers and there are just as many white women, if not more with a bunch of baby daddy's. The black guys who clown for your attention are the corn dogs most black women don't desire, because they can play them like lotto. Step out your Myers Park fantasy and look around and for god's sake, stay out of the sun!

Anonymous said...

I can picture the scene perfectly...you and your frat buddies in Hilton Head wearing plaid and/or whale print shorts, sunglasses hanging from a rope across your polo-ed chest. Drinking some kind of scotch to appear sophisticated like daddy. you see snake eyes bustin' a move and you start making fun of him.. one-to feel better about your lack of originality. two- to impress the girls with crappy highlights you are trying to lay that night. Really-making fun of some guy who really wants attention proves that you are not interesting enough to form conversations that don't involve making fun of people. This is a waste of my time-really--but just wanted to let you know that you sound like a fool. White southern males who perpetuate racist thinking are disgusting.---white female, age 27

Anonymous said...

Black Female Response: I know what you mean Tonya. I see Black me acting like complete idiots with lame pick-up lines. However, I must agree with the response above. White men act stupid every day of the week to get my attention by acting like something they're not. The response from the lady disparaging Black women is a total LOSER for being so mean and small minded! I am a college educated, top producing salesperson, who has owned her own company for 7 years, owns a home, has no children, and has never been on public assistance. Come to think of it...a Black guy might like her. Even she agreed Black men only get the white women that white men don't want. Who'd want an such an ignorant woman?

Anonymous said...

I am amazed and offended that no one has posted a comment correcting the ignorant and racist comments posted by "hey, you asked". As a very desirable, eduacted, childless, African American woman I am concerned that such comments can be made without anyone objecting. The white woman is longer the coveted prize that is portrayed in history.
I agree with the previous comment about white men attempting to seem "down". Everyday I am approached by white men who are fascinated with my caramel skin and can't wait to touch the luscious curls that flow from my head. White men have always had an obsession with black women. The black mans obsession with white women is at the fault of the white man. Black women have always been critizied for being too strong, too sexual, too matriarchal...when will people recognize the Black Madonna figure in America?
When I first read this blog I was amused. I have seen the Black guy at the club shucking and jiving for the approval of their white friends. I want to paint his face and give him some chicken and watermelon while he strings up his tap shoes. We all have our cast aways. I pray some white woman snatches up the crazy black guy with white contacts who gets all is street cred from watching BET and wearing a chain from the swap meet. My white sisters can HAVE that Black man. It's so amusing to see and even hear the things white women say about black men. They don't all have big penis'. They can't all play basketball or rap. Some of them even know their fathers. I love that Tonya wrote this blog. It was funny until a Don Imus clone popped up spewing ignorance.

Anonymous said...

You must not get paid for your time. Get a life, O, maybe a real job. Do something else with your time, this is not for you.

Anonymous said...

I just seen this blog. i'm an african american female and am offended that this topic is even posted. Irregardless of why he is doing what he's doing...you obviously didn't think about how it would make us look in general.

He may look crazy, but that doesn't mean its for a white woman or any other woman. he could be gay for all you know. In any case, this mess needs to be deleted.

Please don't post anymore topics like this. Thanks.

Anonymous said...

I agree delete this post. It is totally stupid and racist.

Tonya's editor said...

It's hilarious that you have to write a race-baiting comment to get attention. Every few weeks you seem to try to stir it up to get comments. Just look: 0 comments on almost every "article" that you scribble. So, so, so sad.

Serena said...

Reminds me of this guy at Speed Street that yelled "Hey come here white girl." I looked at him like, dude be more specific there are like a million white girls here.